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Preparing For Them To Go

A lot has to be done between now and the time they leave. So many things to do in fact, that you begin to wonder if there is enough time to get everything done. Is there an order or priority for each task?  Uhhm, no not really so don’t let it bother you.


You are going to have many moments of doubt throughout the tour but you will find that you can manage. You are far more capable than you ever imagined. Take heart in that. Here is a little nudge to help you get stuck in.


What about the money side of things? This is crucial to sort out because your life revolves around it. It may be better to put all of your regular bills in something like a Direct Debit account so they get paid automatically. You don’t want to be chasing about unsure if this bill or that one has been dealt with. The dread of the electricity or phone cut off or men banging at your door to get payments for other things that you have allowed to slide. That could then be a daunting picture. So both (and I stress BOTH) take a trip to the bank and get their sensible suggestions. They are bound to give you the advice you need to put your mind at rest. 


Do you have a car that won’t be used? Get in touch with the DVLA at 0870 240 0010 and organise an off road license. It makes a difference and there is absolutely no point in paying tax on a car that is not going to be used for 6 months. In fact, close down or reduce any payments you won’t need. These may be few but worthwhile considering.


For safety get into the routine of locking doors and windows at night. Put a chain on your door. It may seem silly but it is very important to know that you are safe. You will sleep better at night. It will make your partner also assured that you will be ok.


Put together a list of handy numbers to keep next to the phone. It’s typical that something will need fixing or go wrong. Everything ALWAYS goes wrong the minute they leave.  Be prepared with “Just in case” numbers



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Welfare Officer and Families Officer


Your welfare office can give you lots of advice and be your first port of call for every type of support whether it is in your home life or for information on important events. They will answer masses of queries, big or small, that may crop up. Don’t feel you are pestering them because that’s what they are there for.  

And don’t forget the really hard, but essential jobs like your wills, insurance and wages. It does make you feel sick to even think about writing wills but it goes for both of you. Look out for each other and sort out what you both feel is favourable. 


Decide between yourselves the important things relevant to your needs.  An… ahh help….  list at your fingertips for all situations. If this is your first time alone, it will gradually register that it isn’t as difficult to deal with problems as you first thought. You will be adding to things to be done on a daily basis – especially if you are in a married quarter!! 


Little tip: Get some lightbulbs. I am sure one or more may need to be changed in 6 months. So be ready for any event. Things break when they leave which is just typical !!  




Books by Judith Bray

Washing Line to Frontline: Surviving Your Soldiers Tour

The Battle At Home When Your Soldier's At War

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